SUPPORT FOR COUPLES TO RECONNECT
Online Couples Therapy in Grand Rapids
and across Michigan
You love each other but something precious is quietly slipping away.
The couples I work with care deeply for each other but feel stuck in patterns that slowly create distance. You want to talk things through with your partner, but even small disagreements seem to turn into something bigger. Conversations that you hope will bring you closer often end in a spiral or shutdown. One of you pulls away. The other tries to push through. And in the middle of it, true understanding gets lost.
Over time, the harder conversations are avoided. Needs go unspoken and hurt feelings aren’t repaired. And without meaning to, an invisible wall starts to build between you. Trust and closeness are farther away and eventually you notice the tinges of resentment. This is an exhausting pattern for any couple and hard to break on your own. You may have built a strong life together but still feel unsure how to connect when you feel so far apart. Even with love and good intentions, you keep ending up in the same place.
AND NOW YOU…
Feel more like roommates than lovers
Repeat the same conversations or arguments that never go anywhere
Worry that talking about sex or intimacy might backfire
Escalate or shutdown when conflict comes up, or avoid it altogether
The truth is, you’re tired of going in circles and hope therapy can help. You love each other and the life you’ve built together matters.
It doesn’t have to stay this way.
With the right support, you can change the pattern so that conversations feel safer, connection is stronger, and intimacy feels close again.
HOW IT WORKS
My Approach to Couples Therapy
I help couples break the cycles that keep them stuck in disconnection and build new ways of communicating that actually last. Our work focuses on helping you talk about what matters, feel safe being honest, and handle differences in a way that brings you closer instead of pulling you apart.
I take a direct and simple approach to couples therapy because change must feel doable. I’ll help you understand the patterns between you and give you practical tools you can use in real life. Therapy with me is not just about insight – it’s about turning awareness into action for lasting connection. To do that, I work with three entities in our couples therapy sessions: you, your partner, and the pattern between you. To most thoroughly understand those patterns and help you move forward, I recommend a 4-session intake process:
Session 1: We all meet for the initial couples therapy intake.
Sessions 2 & 3: I meet with each of you 1:1. This is a time for me to learn about your background, your perspectives, and what you bring into the relationship.
Session 4: We all come back together and continue with couples therapy from then on. In this session I’ll share a clear plan that outlines the process for what we’ll do in session to move you closer to your goals.
Our work from there is focused and practical so that change feels achievable, not overwhelming. With warmth, honesty, and even a bit of humor, I’ll guide you in shifting old patterns and building a stronger connection together.
Couples Therapy can help you…
talk openly with your guard down
work through conflict in ways that build trust
feel close, connected, and understood
stop avoiding and feel safer opening up
rekindle passion and joy in your sex life
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT COUPLES THERAPY
FAQs
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That’s a valid concern. Many couples come to me after feeling like past therapy didn’t go deep enough or didn’t lead to real change.
With this is mind, part of my role is showing you how to turn insight into action. We don’t just talk about your concerns, we also collaborate to find realistic and practical ways you can apply the concepts we’re discussing in session to your daily lives. Small habits build big change, and I’ll help you every step of the way.
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This is one of the most common fears I hear about starting couples therapy. Yes, strong emotions can come up, but you will not be left on your own in those moments.
I stay active and involved during our sessions. I help slow things down, stop escalation when needed, and guide you back into understanding each other instead of fighting. When conflict shows up, we use it to learn what is really happening in your relationship and how to change it.
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Yes. A major focus of couples therapy is improving communication. This includes learning how to talk about challenging topics, express needs clearly, initiate important conversations, and feel heard without things escalating into conflict.
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Yes. Many couples come to therapy because of challenges with sex, desire differences, emotional distance, or difficulty talking about intimacy. Therapy helps you discuss these topics more openly and rebuild connection in both emotional and physical ways.
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I am an out-of-network provider, which means I do not bill insurance directly.
This gives you more privacy, more control over your care, and more flexibility in how therapy is structured. It also allows us to focus fully on your relationship and not on what insurance will or won’t approve.
If you choose, I can provide a Superbill that you may submit to your insurance company for possible reimbursement, depending on your plan.
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Yes. I offer online couples therapy across Michigan, including Grand Rapids and surrounding areas. Sessions are done virtually so you can attend from home or any private space.
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If you are both willing to show up and be honest, it is usually not too late. You do not have to feel hopeful all the time, and you do not have to agree on everything. What matters is that you are both willing to work on the relationship.
Couples therapy is not be a good fit if there is an ongoing extra-marital affair, physical violence, or if one partner is planning to leave and not interested in repair. Otherwise, there is often more room for change than couples realize.
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That’s totally okay, you don’t have to. My job is to guide the process so you are not guessing or feeling lost. You do not need to come in with a plan. You just need to show up.
If you want to get started with me, head over to the Contact page and send me a message. I’ll take it from there.
It doesn’t have to stay this way.
You just need the right kind of support to help.